This week marks the one-year anniversary of my decision to become a stay-at-home mom to our three little boys. It definitely wasn’t a decision I made lightly. We planned for it, and thought about all the costs of working.
And as prepared as I was, I still wasn’t prepared for all the changes I would go through. I thought I’d share a little bit about what I’ve learned.
1) I honestly don’t know where I would have found the time to work. Between taking care of the kids, the household and the budget, I’m busier now than I’ve ever been.
2) This is the most challenging and rewarding job I’ve ever had. The boys bring laughter and joy to our lives every single day, and they’re happier and better behaved now that I’m home.
3) We were on track for retirement – even with me not working – when I quit my job. Now, I’m not so sure. With friends and family facing cuts in hours and layoffs, I’ve definitely learned not to take anything for granted. We’re working on making sure we’re prepared for our future.
4) Every little bit of money saved counts. Some folks tell you to focus on saving on the big things.. and we’ve done that, but those pennies saved add up, too. I’ve become a lot more disciplined when I shop – a lot fewer impulse buys than I used to make.
5) It’s hard to get used to the isolation you sometimes feel as a stay-at-home mom. I’ve worked hard to find ways to get out of the house and connect with other people. And I’ve found some great friends through the blogosphere that have really helped me grow as a blogger, and a person. I’m learning to remind myself that I have an identity outside of just being mom.
6) I’ve learned not to let my resume die. While my husband’s job is relatively secure, I’ve learned there are no guarantees in life. I’m still networking and building connections. I’m still making an effort to bring in a little money every month.
7) I’ve learned that you need to start every day with a plan. I always knew this when I was working, but it’s very easy to forget this when you’re home. Days can just slip by and you can feel totally adrift. I plan out my days and set goals for myself every month so that I can feel a sense of accomplishment.
Becoming a stay-at-home mom has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. Our family just works better now that I’m at home.
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