A friend of mine put his house and business up for sale. He has purchased a sailboat and is going to spend a few years sailing the globe. For real.
I congratulated him on Facebook and thought that was that. Until the next day when I was heading in to work. I found myself thinking in a rather snotty voice, “Well, some of us will not be going to work, some of us will just be sailing around in the sun.” Whoa. I guess that wasn’t that.
When I had time later that day, I thought about what he was giving up. Both he and his wife will have to put their careers on hold and then rebuild them upon return. The three kids will be totally dependent on Mom and Dad and each other for all their social and educational needs. There are no babysitters or tutors in the Atlantic. There probably will not be baby number 4. They are going to get rid nearly all of their stuff and have to repurchase it all when they are ready to be landlubbers again. Conveniences like getting mail and picking up a carton of juice will not exist. While they are gone, their friends and family will not have pressed the pause button and he will have missed the holidays and social events that mark milestones in their lives. Those same people won’t be able to celebrate anything with his family.
Looking at it from that perspective, my inner not-so-snotty voice asked me if I would be willing to make those changes for the experience of sailing the world. The answer was, “Nope.”
Are things perfect now? No.
Are they that awful? No.
Could I be more adventurous? Sure.
Could I make some changes to put more happiness and peace in to my days? Yup.
Do I really want something all that different from the life I have built? Not really. I kind of like my life.
That not-so-snotty voice reminded me that to every coin, there are two sides. Every greener patch of grass still needs mowing. What goes up, must come down. Yin and Yang.
On the other hand, I don’t get seasick…