I recently shared that I have lost 35 pounds. I still have a ways to go, but now that the progress is adding up, people are starting to notice my weight loss.
I have attempted to lose weight at other times in my 27-year battle with my self image, but never before have I been so curious to observe other people’s reactions. I think maybe because this time I really am just doing this for me, I have the luxury of just observing others observing me.
Because my motivation is internal, I am not looking for approval from others. Sure, I am flattered and touched when people do notice, but it does not leave me feeling hurt or sad if a person does not notice.
Some people rush right up to me and ask me about it. A few people swear that my hair is different and I should always wear it like that. Another says I should always wear pink because it makes me look good. So, something is different, but they don’t know what or don’t want to say.
Still others (probably most people I run into) remain clueless. Even though I have been working every single day on working out, eating well and getting healthy for the past 90 days, they don’t say a thing. Because you know what? They did not notice. That’s life – we are all busy and juggling all sorts of things at once.
This rings true to the advice you probably received in high school: People are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. They are thinking about themselves.
Since people are not watching you as closely as you think, you might as well just go about your business and do what works best for you, don’t you think?
I think this wholly applies to frugal ventures, as well. It is so easy to fall into the trap of buying certain things because it seems like everyone else around you is doing the same. You don’t want to (or have your kids) not have the latest toy, go on that big vacation, take the extra hockey lessons or wear the school spirit clothing. You feel like you will be singled out and not fit in.
While that might be true in some cases, very often people are focused on themselves. I don’t mean that as an insult; it is just a fact. If you think about it, what are you thinking about most of the time? What you need to do, what you are going to eat, what you want, what you need, what your family needs, etc. And that is only natural – who else is going to worry about that stuff?
So if you decide to cancel cable or that you don’t want to do the ALS challenge or whatever else feels right for you financially, then just do it.
Because people are not watching you as closely as you think. Chances are, they probably won’t even notice.
It makes the decision making process easier, doesn’t it?