As I sit at my computer writing this on a Saturday night, the noise from the basement is distracting to say the least. My 14-year-old son has 7 friends over (4 couples; I can barely stand that reality). My husband is having a beer at our bar with a fellow fire fighter, one of the girl’s dad. My 12-year-old daughter is in her room with her best friend (also the sister of one of boys over for the “party” – those two are staying over night, heading to church with us in the morning). My 7-year old and 4-year-old boys are roaming from group to group, chatting and enjoying the fun. My dog, bless her heart, is plum tuckered out from the excitement of greeting so many people, and is laying at my feet.
I have an overnight coffee cake in the fridge for breakfast tomorrow and brownies cooling on the stove, waiting to be served after nachos later tonight. I spent the whole day in a Spring Cleaning Frenzy and am beyond tired, but this – what is going on in my house right now – is what it is all about.
Everyone having fun, getting to know my kids’ friends. Being a safe and fun place for the pre-driving (and hopefully still even when they CAN drive) kids to hang out and have fun is the best – and so, so important. It is why I do what I do.
So often, the business of life clouds my vision and I forget this is the end goal. My to do list takes over and I end up over focused on cleaning, organizing, etc., and I just want to REST. Rest is good, but I keep things clean and organized so I can be relaxed and joyful when I have a house full of guests. I take time to make my own baking mixes (when I can) so I can whip up a coffee cake and brownies on the fly and feed the crowd good, yet budget friendly fare.
Yesterday I was on my way to pick up my oldest from Lacrosse practice and he sent me a text: “Can we give Tony a ride home?”.
I started to sigh, remembering that I also needed to stop at the grocery store for a few items and had a headache, but luckily I just as quickly reminded myself that this is why we have made the sacrifices that we have in our careers and budget – so that we can be around. Both for our kids, and as they get older, their friends, too.
We are certainly NOT perfect (but who wants to hear about that??) – we could do a lot better on so many fronts. But, with the kids, I think we are doing OK and we feel so blessed and grateful to be able to have an open door (house door and car door) policy with our kids’ friends.
Note to self: Remember to take my nose out of the to do lists long enough to enjoy the end goal from time to time.